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Halloween 2010

Time for an update!

So I check the family blogs often and am disappointed when there is nothing new to read. Then I guiltily realized that I myself have not written on any blog in quite some time. Also, it appears that I am a horrible communicator as each of my sisters called me saying they learned we were moving via Facebook. How pathetic is that? So allow me to share a bit of what has been going on in the Broadhead Household.

We did in fact move out of our darling townhouse. We loved it there but it is just too small and Russ and I felt it was time to move on. To be honest, I was not happy about it. Our ward is AMAZING and Abi has wonderful friends just steps away - as do I. But after going to the temple I felt peaceful about trusting my husband and following his council. Not an easy thing for this control freak, believe me. We had some college students all set up to rent it, but they backed out at the last minute. So if anyone knows of someone looking for a great place in St. George please give them out number! Elisa has been kind enough to allow us to stay here awhile to get things sorted out and the girls are loving it. I thinks she is enjoying the time with them as well, but we've already broken three things in a little over a week so here's hoping those good feelings will continue.

I am back at Pine View for my third year and just cast the fall musical, "Kiss Me, Kate!" It will run in November and I am totally excited. I am working with the best teachers ever and the kids are stoked. It's going to be a great show!

Russ is adjusting to me being gone a lot again and completely embracing the role of teacher to the girls. Abi knows 110 words and Sarah is recognizing more each day. Ab's is such a great big sister and loves playing with Sarah, pretending to be varies animals, riding her bike and scooter (thanks grandma), and getting snow cones. Sarah is part monkey and climbs anything and everything. We thought Abi was bad when it came to climbing but Sarah puts her to shame. She is lovely and will show you attitude at the slightest provocation. But we love them both and love watching them grow and develop.

We love you all and will keep you posted on how things go!!!

Happy 4th of July!

What a great week. We have had beautiful weather. It's been cooler than normal and I have loved it. Ken and I have spent quite a few hours in our yard this week. The cooler weather has made that possible.

Ken has been having back pain for a few weeks. He went in for an injection on thursday. We were hopeing it would help relieve the pain. It didn't work. The compressions are too bad and the doctor couldn't get the medication to go in the area. It was terribly painful to say the least. We are so sad about it all. Ken has an appointment in a couple of weeks. Hopefully there is something other than surgery that will help him.

Being Silly

Ruby loves to pull funny faces...and with the Mac photo booth application, these turned out extra silly!

Our new house

Here is an update on our new home. Our first night here was monday May 24th. We've been here almost a full month now. I have to say, right from the start I felt at home. I really love it here. I feel that this is the place that we are supposed to be right now. I really love the front porch. It's really shady and it's fun to sit and watch people go by. We have walkers and joggers and bikes and of course cars. It's still a quiet neighborhood street but fun to sit and watch. The house is quite old. Around a hundred years old I've heard. It has a lot of personality. But most of all, it has a wonderful spirit about it. I feel so blessed to be here. Jason is right across the street from his best buddy Will. The house is painted some really fun colors. The front room and dining room are orange. Our bedroom is yellow. The office is lime green. Our pictures look really great hanging on these colors. It's a lot smaller than our other home though. We are getting rid of a lot of things. And that is a good thing. I feel that things are a lot simpler. And I really like that. Kens office is in our home and I'm not working right now. Jason is out of school for the summer. It's so fun to be home together and work together. We still have a lot to go through and put away or get rid of. The totally awesome garage is pretty stuffed. It's a work in progress. But we're having loads of fun.

May 18, 2010

I promised an update and it's been a while, so here is the latest from our world.

The problems with our home haven't gotten any better; in fact, they've gotten worse. In my last post I mentioned that I thought US Bank had the mortgage. It turned out that they didn't, and referred me to Bank of America. I checked with them and they don't have it. Wells Fargo doesn't have it, and neither does Chase. Nobody seems to know or admit that they have it. Everything is still referred back to American Home Mortgage Servicing Inc. (AHMSI) They assigned our home to a local real estate agent to handle. They (AHMSI) know who actually owns the mortgage, but the privacy laws don't allow them to tell me who that is. They also refuse to forward our information to whomever actually owns the mortgage. They tell me that the servicing has been assigned to them and they can make any decision necessary. When I ask them to make a decision concerning our unique situation, they tell me thay can't make a decision. It's very frustrating, to say the least.

I have spoken to three different attorneys and all of them have given me some good advice. They all think our situation is a lot different than normal; in fact, none of them had heard of something like this. They each thought it would be interesting, and probably worth taking it to a judge and let them decide what to do. Two of them said they felt we have about a 75% chance of winning, and the other said it was about 50/50. Those are good odds, but when all is said and done, can we live with the worst thing that could happen. If we lost, they could kick us out of our home and charge us for all of the legal expenses both parties incurred, and fine us for whatever they felt the rent should have been while we were contesting the current decision.

After much fasting and prayer, we have decided to move. We looked all over our ward and stake, the surrounding areas, and even as far as Herriman and Riverton and couldn't find anything. We did find a home up by Shawnee and Richard that might have worked, but for some reason we couldn't get the feeling we should move there. That was over a Thursday, Friday and Saturday.

On Sunday, Luann went to our resident ward while I was at the YSA ward. In Relief Society one of our old ward members that had moved to Hawaii approached her and said she had heard we were looking for a home, and that she had a home that needed a family.

From that conversation things just fell into place, and we are moving into the Burkhart home this weekend. We will be in the same ward and Jason will attend the same schools. What a blessing!

As I look back on the past two-three months, with hindsight I can see the hand of the Lord in this. I'm still not sure what lesson(s) we needed to learn or have yet to learn, but it's pretty clear that we need to be in the Burkhart's home. Those of you that have had the experience of struggling with something you want really badly, and running into every roadblock possible, only to have the waters part and things fall into place in ways that you couldn't imagine, know what I mean. If you've never had that experience, hopefully, someday you will.

There are real blessings that come with following the path the Lord opens up for us as opposed to constantly trying to forge our own path. I believe we need to do everything we can do in situations like this, but we also need to allow the Lord to bless us in ways that we can't see at the time. I don't think this is the Lord's choice, (if it were it would mean He had taken our agency away, and He will never do that) but I do think He has opened a way for us to grow and improve more than we could have or would have if we stayed here. I hope my faith is strong enough to allow and recognize those blessings, and not whine and complain about life being so hard, or dwell too much in the past. That will be my greatest challange.

I hope this entry helps clear up some of your questions. Please feel free to ask us anything you want, or for clarification on something you might not understand. We're not trying to hide anything; but we also recognize that some people are hesitant to ask for fear they will hurt our feelings. We assure you that is not the case.

I think our biggest loss will be leaving our wonderful neighbors. This little road we've been able to live on is as close to heaven as you can get. To have neighbors and friends like Lee and Jackie White, Glen and Bev White, Dave and Lisa Scofield, Lyle and Marie White, and Joe and Nora Anderson has blessed us beyond what we thought possible. Over the years each of them have done things for us that have blessed our lives and touched our family in ways we didn't know was possible. As special thanks goes out to them for loving us and allowing us to live amongst them. We will truly miss you.

Our family would like to express our love to all of our wonderful friends and family. Perhaps the greatest blessing we have ever known, is the outpouring of love and concern so many people have shown and expressed. Your thoughts and prayers are felt and appreciated. We love you, and are grateful for each of you.

We truly are a blessed family!

Ken

Moving this Saturday

It looks like this Saturday, May 22 will be the big moving day. If you are available to help, it would be greatly appreciated.

Update

April 20, 2010

How do you thank so many people for their thoughts, efforts and prayers? We have been so blessed!

Since word of what is happening got out, we’ve been overwhelmed by the response. The love and compassion people have shown us has been tremendous. The last thing we expected was for so many people to step forward with thoughts, prayers, suggestions and offers to help. What a blessing it is to be loved by so many wonderful people. With that in mind, I thought I’d take this chance to update everyone on what has happened and what we are doing.

Our incredible daughters and their friends had a yard sale last Saturday. People donated lots of items, and it also gave us a chance to share some of the things we’ve collected over the years. Richard and his family were a huge help, and James was great watching the kids while Tracee worked on gathering and selling things. We’ve been reminded of how much we have, as opposed to how much we need. Whether we move or not, it’s good to get these things in the hands of people that need and/or could use them. Thank you all for your mighty efforts. We’re having another one this weekend. It will be at Shawnee and Richard’s house. It’s easy to get there and there’s a lot more traffic where they live.

As far as the house goes, nothing has been decided. We’re still not sure who the actual bank is, but I think its US Bank. I’ve tried to contact them, but the number I got off the internet is a recording that says they’re busy, call back later. There’s not even a way to leave your number or transfer to another department. It’s pretty frustrating, but we’re not giving up. There are some possibilities of other homes in the area, but it’s too soon to say what will happen. We have had some wonderful counsel, and tomorrow I’ll contact some attorneys and get some advice. There are also some other options we’re exploring. As soon as I have more to tell, I’ll update the blog again.

On the work front there’s hope. Nothing has been decided, but there are more options than I thought. I’ll explore them this week too.

Luann and I were talking today, and as hard as it’s been, there have been some wonderful blessings given to us and our family, that we probably wouldn’t have been given without these challenges. Our family has grown even closer, and it’s been a wonderful experience to share what’s been happening with them. Their zest for life and their hope for the future have lifted our spirits more than they know. It’s hard to tell your children that things have gone wrong. We picture ourselves as grown up and wise, and think that things like this will never happen to us. We’re supposed to be wise and all knowing, and never admit that things can go wrong. As parents, we expect our kids to goof up once in a while, and we love them anyway. What a blessing it has been to have them open their arms and hearts to us in our time of need.

Another blessing has been our Young Single Adult ward. We did an Easter cantata for the four wards in our building. It was a great evening, and at the end of the night Luann put her arms around me and told me that I never would have been able to write the program if we weren’t going through this experience. She said that the Lord blesses us in ways that are most beneficial to us and those around us, and not always in the ways we want or expect to be blessed. That was a powerful moment for me, as I was reminded that the Lord knows us and wants what’s best for us, even when we think it’s something else.

As much as we’d like to have this settled, we never would have experienced these, and many other blessings, without the trials. I know I whine and complain a lot, but I see the hand of the Lord in so many things. It’s a testimony that He knows us and loves us. It also reminds me that as much as I hate what’s happening, I would rather go through this, than experience some of the trials others have to face. The Lord really does know what experiences will help us grow the most, and what things we can handle. I have to remind myself of that several times a day, but I know it’s true.

We are so grateful for each of you. We didn’t know we had so many wonderful friends, and are astonished at all the things you’ve done for us. Our extended families have rallied around us and expressed their love and concern, along with offers to help. We love each of you more than words can express. Our hearts are overflowing with love and gratitude. We are truly blessed.

Ken

Update

April 20, 2010

How do you thank so many people for their thoughts, efforts and prayers? We have been so blessed!

Since word of what is happening got out, we’ve been overwhelmed by the response. The love and compassion people have shown us has been tremendous. The last thing we expected was for so many people to step forward with thoughts, prayers, suggestions and offers to help. What a blessing it is to be loved by so many wonderful people. With that in mind, I thought I’d take this chance to update everyone on what has happened and what we are doing.

Our incredible daughters and their friends had a yard sale last Saturday. People donated lots of items, and it also gave us a chance to share some of the things we’ve collected over the years. Richard and his family were a huge help, and James was great watching the kids while Tracee worked on gathering and selling things. We’ve been reminded of how much we have, as opposed to how much we need. Whether we move or not, it’s good to get these things in the hands of people that need and/or could use them. Thank you all for your mighty efforts. We’re having another one this weekend. It will be at Shawnee and Richard’s house. It’s easy to get there and there’s a lot more traffic where they live.

As far as the house goes, nothing has been decided. We’re still not sure who the actual bank is, but I think its US Bank. I’ve tried to contact them, but the number I got off the internet is a recording that says they’re busy, call back later. There’s not even a way to leave your number or transfer to another department. It’s pretty frustrating, but we’re not giving up. There are some possibilities of other homes in the area, but it’s too soon to say what will happen. We have had some wonderful counsel, and tomorrow I’ll contact some attorneys and get some advice. There are also some other options we’re exploring. As soon as I have more to tell, I’ll update the blog again.

On the work front there’s hope. Nothing has been decided, but there are more options than I thought. I’ll explore them this week too.

Luann and I were talking today, and as hard as it’s been, there have been some wonderful blessings given to us and our family, that we probably wouldn’t have been given without these challenges. Our family has grown even closer, and it’s been a wonderful experience to share what’s been happening with them. Their zest for life and their hope for the future have lifted our spirits more than they know. It’s hard to tell your children that things have gone wrong. We picture ourselves as grown up and wise, and things like this will never happen to us. We’re supposed to be wise and all knowing, and never admit that things can go wrong. As parents, we expect our kids to goof up once in a while, and we love them anyway. What a blessing it has been to have them open their arms and hearts to us in our time of need.

Another blessing has been our Young Single Adult ward. We did an Easter cantata for the four wards in our building. It was a great evening, and at the end of the night Luann put her arms around me and told me that I never would have been able to write the program if we weren’t going through this experience. She said that the Lord blesses us in ways that are most beneficial to us and those around us, and not always in the way we want or expect to be blessed. That was a powerful moment for me, as I was reminded that the Lord knows us and wants what’s best for us, even when we think it’s something else.

As much as we’d like to have this settled, we never would have experienced these, and many other blessings, without the trials. I know I whine and complain a lot, but I see the hand of the Lord in so many things. It’s a testimony that He knows us and loves us. It also reminds me that as much as I hate what’s happening, I would rather go through this, than experience some of the trials others have to face. The Lord really does know what experiences will help us grow the most, and what things we can handle. I have to remind myself of that several times a day, but I know it’s true.

We are so grateful for each of you. We didn’t know we had so many wonderful friends, and are astonished at all the things you’ve done for us. Our extended families have rallied around us and expressed their love and concern, along with offers to help. We love each of you more than words can express. Our hearts are overflowing with love and gratitude. We are truly blessed.

Ken

Home Sweet Home...

In an effort to help friends and family understand what has happened, and prevent the need to tell the story over and over, it was suggested that I keep everyone updated on our progress through a family blog. Luann and I are grateful for your thoughts and prayers as we go through this difficult and growing time.

In 2006 a business associate was approached, and subsequently approached me, with an idea and a program that we were told would help us and our families. After several talks, we both decided to follow the program. As a result, we bought each other’s house. The reasoning he used was as follows:

If someone has good credit and doesn’t own a home, it would be easier for them to purchase rental properties. If you’re not personally obligated to a mortgage, you can qualify for more loans. In adition, if you own rental property, you can claim 75% of the rents you receive, as income. That in turn would allow you to qualify for even more rental property. As long as you had a signed lease, and the rental income was equal to or greater than the mortgage payment, your portfolio would continue to grow without the risk of losing any money. The lease would protect both you and the person leasing the property if anything ever happened. The lease we were told to use is called a Capital Lease, and runs for 30 years. At the end of 30 years the leaser could buy out the lease for $1.00. In the mean time, the capital lease gave the leaser authority to do whatever they wanted with the house up to and including selling it.

My first mistake was not following my feelings. Instead, I let them talk me into it. The sales were final in March of 2006. We didn't see any tax advantages like we were told to expect, and neither one of us felt comfortable not owning our homes, so subsequently we decided to buy them back.

We met all the qualifications and did all the paperwork required, and scheduled the closings for the end of July, 2007. Luann and I had won a trip to Rome, so we scheduled our closing for the first week in August, after we got back. My business associate closed his loan and bought his home back while we were in Rome.

The morning we were to close our loan we got a call from the title company telling us the mortgage company wanted to postpone our closing for a while. They wanted to check some things, so we agreed to postpone it for a couple of days. This went on for the rest of the week. We would schedule the closing, they would agree, and then they would put it off again. Nobody could tell us what the problem was, they just said they needed a little more time. Finally, we were told the mortgage company was suspending all transactions across the country. We didn't know it at the time, but it turned out to be the beginning of the mortgage crisis.

At first we were told they (the mortgage company) wouldn’t make any loans to a self-employed person. We tried several companies and got the same answer. Then things got worse. At first it was only self-employed people that couldn't get a loan. Later it turned out that nobody could get a loan. It didn’t matter the circumstances, the whole industry just shut down. This was about a year before the value of homes dropped and the stock market crashed.

At the time (2007)I was working for Allstate. They had a major change in management and philosophy, and as a result, I resigned from Allstate in January of 2008. I left on great terms with Allstate, but it's not so good now. I could write a novel about my experiences with Allstate, but that’s another story.

When I left Allstate, I had a no-compete clause in my contract. I knew about it, and was prepared to wait the required one year before contacting any of my clients. We had enough in savings, and I had enough other business to keep us afloat. We had some problems with two other homes we owned, but as far as our personal life was concerned, we were okay. However, Allstate has refused to allow me to service my clients, even after waiting the required year. Going without the main source of income for over two years has really drained the reserves we had.

My business associate had purchased several pieces of property and was going through some problems I wasn’t aware of. I certainly don’t blame him for my decisions; I made them myself. Looking back, we could have done things differently, but hind sight is 20/20. Neither one of us would have done some of the things we did. They weren’t dishonest, they were just ill-timed. We didn’t know what was coming.

Taylor Bean & Whitaker was the company that held the mortgage. Our interest rate was 8.75% and interest rates in 2009 were 4%. The difference in our monthly payments would be about $1,500. We contacted TB&W about doing a loan modification, and were told the only way they would consider doing it is if we were behind on our payments. They assured us that with the bailout money and the stimulus package the government offered, there would be no problem.

We completed the paperwork and submitted everything to TB&W in late April or early May of 2009. Then, we waited and waited. I finally got through to a lady named Cynthia. I spoke to her several times in August, the last time on August 17^th and made sure she had everything required. She said she did, and gave us a preliminary approval at that time. She said the paperwork needed to be forwarded for the proper signatures and would take about a week.

When I hadn’t heard anything by the end of the second week, I called her back. When I finally got her on the phone, she asked me if I had heard the news. When I asked her “what news?” she told me to go to Taylor Bean & Whitaker’s website. I did, and discovered that the week before; the federal government had shut them down. I still don’t know what they did, but it stopped the approval we needed. Confusion reigned, and nobody knew which bank our mortgage had been assigned to. All we could do was wait.

Finally in November my business associate received word that the mortgage was being handled by a company called American Home Mortgage Servicing Inc. I contacted them and was told that I couldn’t talk with them; the mortgage wasn’t in my name. We sent in the required paperwork, and I finally got approval to at least talk with them the begining of December. I explained what had happened, and they told me to submit a new application using their paperwork. I did, and the process began again.

Then, on February 24^th we received a foreclosure notice. It said that our home would be sold at auction to the highest bidder on March 24^th. I had been told that if there was a loan modification in progress, they wouldn't foreclose on a home. I called AHMSI to find out what was going on, and was passed from department to department, with everybody claiming I needed to talk to someone else. In the mean time, the clock kept ticking.

I did find out that AHMSI is a servicing company that handles the accounts for several banks. These include Wells Fargo, Bank of America, Chase and others. As far as I can tell, AHMSI doesn’t own the mortgage, but they won’t tell me who does. At one point I thought Wells Fargo had bought the mortgage. I submitted another packet to them and was waiting for their approval. I was told that everything was in, and there wouldn’t be any problems. The name of the man who works for Wells Fargo is George. The week before the foreclosure, George was admitted to the hospital with kidney stones. While he was in the hospital he had a heart attack. (Is this sounding like Peyton Place, or what?) I don’t know how he is doing, but his second in command couldn’t handle everything, and let ours slip by. As a result, our home went to auction.

At the auction AHMSI made the opening bid of $352,750. Nobody else bid on it, so it went back to the bank.

A man named Brad came to our home April 2^nd and told us he was representing AHMSI, and that we had until the end of April to leave. I gave him a copy of our lease and he said he would submit it to the bank. I asked him which bank it was, and he said he didn’t know. He mentioned the banks I listed above and told me I would be hearing from them shortly.

I talked to him again April 5^th. He told me the banks attorneys had decided the lease wasn’t valid, and we had to leave. I told him I didn't agree with that decision, and asked him again who the bank was. He told me he didn’t know; everything was going through AHMSI.

On April 7^th a man came to the door and served us with a notice saying we had 90 days to leave. We will continue to fight, but as of now we don’t see much hope.

Here is where we stand currently:

Someone could buy the home and let us rent it back, until things change, and we can get a mortgage in our own name. We can’t qualify currently because I’m still self-employed. They won’t even look at our application. As much as we would love to have that happen, we’re not holding our breath.

It appears that we will be forced to move. We don’t know where or when, but we would like to stay, at least until Jason can finish the school year.

Our immediate family has been very supportive. We are so blessed to have the wonderful family we do. Their love and understanding has gotten us through so far. We love them and are so grateful for them.

I’ve spoken to our Bishopric and received a wonderful blessing. I can’t express how much I love them and our Young Single Adult ward. The opportunity to work with these members has been the biggest blessing I’ve had, next to my wife and family. It breaks my heart to think of leaving them.

We love our Kenwood 1^st ward and our Wilford Stake members. We love our neighbors and friends. We couldn’t find a better place to live, or better people to live among. We’ve been here for 20 years and love them all. The best prompting we ever followed was to move to Salt Lake City, and to this Stake. We love our Garden Heights ward, our Kenwood ward, and our Stake. They have loved and supported us and our family in ways that we can’t even express. It will be very hard to leave. I still hope we can work things out.

If not, there must be a reason. As hard as it would be to leave, we must be needed somewhere else. Somehow, we’ve (I’ve) got to have enough faith to put ourselves in the Lord’s hands. It’s the hardest thing we’ve ever done, but past experiences have re-assured us that He lives, and He knows us personally. He knows what’s best for us and wants us to be happy. We can’t know what joy is unless we know sadness. If we don’t have opposition and resistance, we can’t grow. I just wish I knew how much we still needed to grow.

I don’t fault anyone. Circumstances and things happened that we didn’t expect or predict. It feels like the perfect storm has descended on our home. Would I have done it differently? Knowing what I know now, of course I would. But if the situation was the same, and I had the same decisions to make, I’m not sure I would have made them any differently. That’s not to say I shouldn’t have, but its water under the bridge.

We will keep you updated on what happens. For now, we’re looking for a place to move to. If anyone has any ideas or suggestions, we’re open to them. Thank you for your love and support. Thank you for accepting us. Thank you for being our friends. Thank you for understanding. We could never say thank you enough. We love you . . .

Ken

Ruby & Macy

Macy Grace

Book of Mormon DVD Trivia Game

We've been blessed to have been apart of a new scripture trivia DVD game called Remember The Word. It contained 8 rounds that are each different and fun. You divide your group into 2 teams and as you answer the questions correctly you receive stones for points. The theme is from Ether 6:3 where the Brother of Jared brings stones before the Lord to have him touch them to give them light.
We have played this with many groups and love seeing everyone have a great time. We highly recommend this game to those that have attended seminary or institute. It's great for missionaries and returned missionaries. For more information on what the game is about and where to purchase visit Remember The Word